The Girls Last Night

So much has happened the last few days and my blog is doing a terrible job catching up. Bear with the lengthy post!

SUNDAY -  I arranged a playdate for Scarlett and got her good friend over for badminton, skateboarding and also hanging out. Chester started to open up to strangers that day. He cried in the beginning but after sitting on my lap throughout his whole meal, he lightened up. He played with Scarlett's friend, her little brother and their parents and had so much fun with them. As a mother, I can almost feel a little tear drop at the corner of my eye. He seems to do better than I thought. We were all prepared to cut the playdate short if he were to have melt down seeing so many strangers in the house. Turned out, we get to hang out much longer than we expected. Lesson learnt, don't over anticipate. 

MONDAY - Our AC has to break down on Sunday night, like on the hottest days of the decade in Hong Kong. WHY???!!! The heat trapped in the house has been pretty intense. Wonderful thing about Hong Kong is efficiency. Allan went online to order a new AC, we got one this morning and the guys will install it for us this evening.

Yesterday. Allan brought the kids to go for a swim in the late afternoon because we have no AC at home. The kids get to stay with their grandparents to enjoy their AC instead and have dinner there. I get to go out to meet my girls. Yeah, my girls. I have plenty of them. As much as I moan about the lack of friends, which I realized I was actually PMS-ing, I do have plenty of girls in my life. They don't just fade away. We all got busy.

These babes are truly some of those whom I get to be myself and talk like myself when we hang out. They know my past, my history and me inside out. Getting to hang out with such friends is relaxing, unpretentious and you say what you wanna say without fearing being judged. I suppose they don't hate me for talking too much. Or perhaps just one night of me is bearable. Hahahah!

We went to AMMO at Asia Society Club. Food was planned before hand so we didn't order and just waited for our surprise. After all the appetizers and salad, we thought that was it. I was thinking of going home at 8ish, just to realize there were still prawn pasta, wagyu steak and two desserts! Ended up sitting there till 10ish before leaving them. 

Nobody can turn down desserts. Nobody. We were reminded of those good old days we had (when I was kid free) as we sat together last night. The clubbing, the oyster eating, work stress, smoking and drinking days. I mean work stress day kind of hit me in the head too that I should be happy I don't have to deal with it at the moment. We witnessed some glamorous side of old Hong Kong when we were much younger as compared to now. Then one of them made a funny remark that made me laugh. She said this place used to be GLAM and now it's GLOOM. I do agree. This city is fading a little, washed out by division and politics. Some may not see or feel the change. Some do. Or maybe it's just us aging!

We talked about everything and anything. Although these two girls haven't had kids yet, but they are so open to listening to my mommy stories. Bless them! Sharing with them my experiences and how Scarlett has been raised till today. I honestly tell you, I have no intention of raising perfect kids. We are not perfect parents and there is no way we can raise them to be perfect. 

As smart as she is and kind and gentle as she can be, she is probably one of the most paranoid kid you ever meet. She will shock you. She refuses to travel the world fearing natural disasters or ISIS (too much news and documentaries). She refuses to do a lot of sports fearing of breaking a bone or scratching her skin. She refuses to take risks. 

She lives in the world of TV programs now. She sees the world now through TV programs. We have raised a TV junkie. I don't like that but on the bright side, she gets to know David Attenborough and idolizes him more than Taylor Swift. She is inspired to be a biologist, a lawyer or a teacher (if she can, she wants to be all three). Without TV programs, she will never get to know this great man and think of what she wants to be. Even if she doesn't in the future, the part where it got her thinking is still a good start.

My feeling is that no matter how "unperfect" my kids are, the key is the accept how they eventually turn out to be because we raised them this way. It's our way. Our very special and unique brand of little humans in this world. Then I also start to realize not to judge how other kids are being raised too. Parents do what they can to raise each kid and the most beautiful thing we can do as parents are to try embrace their flaws, even our own so to speak. Why? Because their flaws reflect on us and sometimes are also us. I guess, be kind to ourselves and our kids and don't try so hard to perfect it. 

Evening ended so well. I went home and on my way home, was suppose to use my KFC birthday voucher to get a free meal for supper with Allan. It closed when I got there. BUMMER. Last night was the expiry date of the voucher.

Woke up this morning at 6ish to this squirrel face. Brought him down for a stroll and then made two cheese omelettes for Scarlett and him. I am looking forward to my new AC this evening. Allan brought Scarlett to Anime Con today and I get the whole day at home with this little chap. Who wants to come over? Door is open.